My husband died and my stepsons don’t care about me any more after 25 years
DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband died suddenly a month ago and I feel the dynamics have changed between me and my stepsons.
He was my soul-mate and we were married for 25 years. He had full custody of his sons so they were a big part of my life, too. They are now 30 and 28.
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I let them arrange the funeral and have their mother come to it, even though she caused lots of problems in the past.
They were supportive to me when he died, sorting papers etc, and at the funeral but, afterwards, all the family stayed at their mother’s house.
I’m 55 and I feel I have lost my whole family and I do not know how to cope.
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DEIDRE SAYS: At a time like this, grief can make us raw. They may have thought they were making things easier for you.
The years you spent with your stepsons, and all that you shared as a family, have not disappeared.
Invite them round regularly to make it clear you love them.
Find support at Cruse Bereavement Care, (cruse.org.uk, 0808 808 1677).
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