I’m scared to leave my missus for another woman because I’m rubbish in bed
DEAR DEIDRE: BECAUSE I am rubbish in bed, I am too scared to meet somebody else if I leave my partner, like I want to.
I’ve been with her eight years. She is the one girl I’ve ever been with and I met her at college when we were 18. We are now 26.
I don’t want to be with her the rest of my life but I may have to stick with her now because I always finish too soon every time we have sex.
I have tried having sex with two other girls but I was so worried I wouldn’t perform that I couldn’t even get an erection.
My girlfriend accepts the poor sex life we have but I can’t. I want to meet somebody else but I can’t bear to fail yet again.
DEIDRE SAYS: I do pity your girlfriend – not so much because of her sex life but because she is unloved. She must sense that deep down.
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Climaxing quickly is one of the easiest sexual problems to work around or resolve so you can enjoy a mutually satisfying sex life.
My e-leaflet Want To Last Longer? explains.
But work on your relationship too – either strengthen it or call it a day. This half-life isn’t fair on anybody.
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