I’m falling for a guy who blames himself for his girlfriend’s death – and sees her face when he kisses me
DEAR DEIDRE: I’M falling in love with a guy who blames himself for his girlfriend’s death – and sees her face when he kisses me.
She was 28 and took her own life earlier this year. She called him beforehand but he couldn’t pick up, as he was driving. He is 31 and lovely but is tearing himself to bits.
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I’m 33. We talk every day and FaceTime. He has blackouts sometimes, which he says are down to stress.
We have met up a few times but he says that when he kisses another girl, me included, all he sees is his girlfriend’s face.
I’m not jealous of how much he loved her but I want him to be happy and move on. He says he sometimes feels like a living corpse. How can I help him?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Don’t put your life on hold for him. He has had a shattering experience and is not ready for another relationship.
When he is, he is likely to go for someone not linked to this mourning period.
He needs expert support for his feelings. My e-leaflet Help For Bereavement has lots of information that could help him.
By all means be his supportive friend – but look elsewhere for love.
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